There’s no denying that a PCS (Permanent Change of Station) move can come with challenges. While these moves may open new opportunities and experiences, they also bring unique difficulties, especially for families with children. From adapting to new schools and communities to leaving behind friends and routines, the upheaval of a move can be a significant source of stress.
But with thoughtful preparation and a compassionate approach, your PCS move can be a smoother experience for the entire family. Below, Ashley Jensen, LMFT, Senior Manager of Clinical Practice at Cohen Veterans Network offers practical moving tips for military families, focusing on how to ease the transition for kids.
1.) Communicate Early and Openly
First and foremost, avoid delaying the announcement of a PCS move. While waiting for complete details might seem easier, providing children and teens with ample time to process the change and say goodbye to friends is crucial. Make space for ongoing conversations. Even if you don’t have all the answers, being available to talk establishes trust and reduces uncertainty.
- For younger kids: Use simple language and visual aids to explain what will happen. For example, reassure them that their favorite belongings will come along, or use picture books about moving to talk about what to expect.
- For teens: Acknowledge their friendships, hobbies, and emotional investments. Encourage an open discussion about their concerns, making it clear that their feelings are valid.
2.) Include Kids in the Process
Empower your children by actively involving them in the moving process. So, make the planning process visible and engaging. When kids can contribute to the process, the move becomes less about something that’s happening to them and more of a family adventure!
- Create a shared moving checklist: Work together to outline tasks, and assign fun, age-appropriate responsibilities like packing books or choosing toys to carry in their travel bag.
- Brainstorm pre-move activities: Plan a farewell get-together with friends, decide what favorite spots you want to visit one more time, create keepsakes to take with you.
- Research your new destination together: Share exciting information about the new home, learn about activities and attractions in your new community.
3.) Prioritize Connection
The whirlwind of a PCS move can be overwhelming. It’s easy to get caught up in the logistics and to do lists. But moments of connection are essential for mitigating stress and fostering emotional well-being during a significant transition.
- Carve out family time, whether it’s shared meals, games, or simply relaxing together.
- Celebrate milestones along the way, like going out for ice cream together after a successful packing day!
Moving is never easy, but with thoughtful planning and a supportive approach, a PCS move with kids doesn’t have to be a painful experience. It’s an opportunity to teach resilience, adaptiveness, and the value of family connection.
No matter where the next chapter takes you, know that you’re not alone.
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Bonus! Bloom Military Teen Jessica and CVN therapist, Keith, share tips for PCS stress and the loneliness that can accompany a new move.