Veteran Suicide Prevention

Hopelessness is the overwhelming belief that things will never improve. Veterans transitioning to civilian life may experience this when faced with the loss of purpose and identity, difficulties with employment or financial stability, and other challenging circumstances.

To support someone expressing hopelessness, you might say, “It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed and hopeless, and that’s just really wearing you down. What’s feeling beyond your control right now?”

When someone feels like a burden, they may start to believe that their loved ones would be better off without them. Some veterans may face physical or mental health challenges that affect those around them, or they may need extra support when transitioning to new civilian work environments. These circumstances could contribute to feeling like a burden to others.

In this situation, you might say, “I hear that you’re feeling like you can’t do anything right, and that’s tough.  What has been hard for you?”

A lack of belonging is troubling for transitioning veterans as it can lead to feelings of isolation and disconnection from civilian life. Veterans who struggle to find a sense of community or purpose outside of the military may feel alienated and unsupported, which can lead to an increased risk of suicide.

If a loved one expresses a lack of belonging, you might say, “You’re feeling really isolated and alone – I get that. I want you to know that I care about you.  You are an important part of (our family, squad, friend group, etc.)

Veterans may carry guilt from their military experiences related to survivor’s guilt, moral injury, or feelings of responsibility for perceived failures. Guilt can lead to intense self-criticism, feelings of unworthiness, and a belief that they don’t deserve to live or to be happy.

In this instance you might say, “This is really weighing on you. Do you want to talk about it?” Guilt is a complicated emotion that lives on a spectrum, you might additionally consider helping connect your loved one to professional support.

Saying goodbye can be a signal that an individual is contemplating ending their life. In this scenario, it is crucial to address the issue directly and compassionately.

Ask the question plainly, “Hey — I really care about you, and I’m worried about you. Are you having thoughts of killing yourself?” A connection to emergency or crisis services may also be necessary. In which case, you might say “I want to take action to keep you safe, let’s call 988 together to talk to someone.”