In this Q&A Blog Series, Ashley Jensen, Senior Manager, Clinical Programs and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, shares how military couples can strengthen their relationship, manage stress, and create a united front to support their family’s well-being.
How can couples create a united front when parenting, especially if they have different approaches or styles?
- Discuss Parenting Philosophies. Have conversations about your values, beliefs, and goals for raising your children. Don’t do this in the middle of conflict! This conversation is best had during those times you are checking in with each other about the wins and struggles of the week. One question to ask is, “How does both of our strategies align within the values of your family?”
- Find Common Ground: Identify areas where you agree and build on those strengths. When needed, compromise to find a solution that works for both of you. The key here is flexibility and mercy for when things don’t work out as planned. Agree that if one strategy doesn’t work, you’ll come together to agree on a different way forward.
- Learn together. There are many parenting books, podcasts, websites dedicated to supporting parents through their journey. Take the time to read, listen, or watch something together to explore solutions to parenting challenges.
- Remember that you are on the same side! You both want your children to live happy, healthy, and productive lives. Prioritize your relationship over the times disagreements arise. Approach each conflict with respect, love, and grace.
What should couples do when parenting stress starts to create conflict in their relationship? Learn strategies to build your connection amidst the challenges of parenting. Plus, find ways couples can use to manage their own stress, while modeling healthy behaviors for their kids here.