Transitioning from military to civilian life is a challenging process for any family, but it can be particularly complex when children are involved. Military kids grow up with unique experiences that shape their identities and often build an emotional connection to the military lifestyle. For families in this transition, understanding how to support military kids during this time is essential.
Ashley Jensen, LMFT, Senior Manager of Clinical Practice at Cohen Veterans Network provides practical advice and strategies to help families with military children adjust to civilian life after the military.
Acknowledge the Identity Shift:
Military kids and teens, like their service member parents, develop strong identities tied to their unique experiences. Military children will always carry that part of their identity, and leaving military life can feel like a loss. Here are some ways to honor that loss while also looking forward to your future as a family:
- Dedicate time to reflecting and discussing how your family’s values and experiences prepare you for success in civilian life.
Bloom teen, Cayla, and CVN Therapist Ashley, provide ideas on how to talk about transitions as a military family.
Embrace Flexibility:
While the entire family is undergoing a significant transition, everyone will adjust to new jobs, routines, relationships, and expectations at their own pace. During this time, prioritize open communication and regular check-ins with your kids and teens. Ask them:
- “How do you feel things are going?”
- “What are your concerns?”
- “What are you excited about?”
- “Do you have any ideas or suggestions?”
Connect with Your Community:
Leaving the military can create a sense of displacement. By creating a sense of belonging in your new community, you can help your family create a strong foundation for your post-military life.
Here are few ways you can build connections in your local community:
- Explore local resources, clubs, and organizations that align with your family’s interests.
- Look for opportunities to volunteer, participate in community events, and build relationships with your neighbors.
- Help your kids connect with peers through school activities, sports, or other social groups.
Transitioning from military to civilian life is undoubtedly a major adjustment, but with the right mindset, resources, and family support, it can also be a rewarding adventure. For military kids and their families, honoring their experiences, maintaining open communication, and connecting with your community are keys to success.
