Holiday Thrive Guide

Before the holidays begin, reflect on what topics you want to avoid in conversations. Politely communicate these boundaries to your family and friends. You might say something like, “I’d love to keep our time together focused on positive memories and shared experiences rather than discussing politics.” Setting these boundaries helps create a safe space for everyone to enjoy the holidays without tension. Learn more tips.

Even when we are physically far from our loved ones, we can keep the holiday spirit alive! Consider sending “open when” letters, which are a series of notes for him to open at specific moments like when he misses home or needs a laugh. See more ways to celebrate holidays apart here.

Use “I statements” to express how you feel without accusing the other person. For example, instead of saying, “You never include me in holiday planning,” try saying, “I feel left out when I’m not consulted about the plans.” This approach helps prevent the other person from becoming defensive and keeps the conversation focused on your feelings and needs. See more tips here.

It’s normal to feel conflicted when experiencing joy while mourning but remember that happiness doesn’t erase your grief. Both emotions can coexist. Let yourself embrace moments of joy, whether it’s laughing with friends, enjoying a holiday tradition, or finding a quiet moment of peace. Accepting joy alongside sorrow can offer emotional relief and remind you that, despite your loss, life still holds meaningful moments. Find more grief tips.

When traveling “home” to see loved ones, military families sometimes try to pack in a LOT in a short amount of time. But it’s OK to decline invitations and prioritize relaxation with your family. Learn More.

Pack a “holiday box.” Fill it with a few select decorations that are meaningful to your family, like a favorite ornament, string lights, festive pajamas, or a cozy blanket. Find more ways to make your “home” cozy during the holidays.